I met you briefly at Blogher last year, and you shared a bit of your story with me. I'm an adoptive mother with two adopted sons, who I adore and I'm pretty sure we're taking good care of them I have not been so good at sending the pictures and letters to one of my son's birth families lately. It is a semi-closed adoption – so there is no convenient email contact like I have with my other son's birth family. This was not our choice, but the birth parent's choice.

I have been feeling a lot of guilt about that, and you've spurred me on to get someting in the mail soon.

I know it's not a good excuse, but life gets busy when you're raising kids, as you know.

As I told a friend the other day, I am fairly certain my boys will have their own relationship with their birth families. There is a connection there that cannot and should not be denied. I hope that for you as well. Times are different than they were, which is why I was kind of surprised when you said that the state you gave birth in only did closed adoptions. That seems CRAZY!

In any case, I hope you are having fun at Blogher. I am EXTREMLY envious, but couldn't pull it together this year. Next year! I'm still trying to get my blog going!

But first, a letter to Cindy with pictures of her gorgeous big boy (he's 7 now!)

Thank you for sharing!

That was my number one concern about my adoption growing up, that my birth mother didn't know if I was OK. It haunted me. I hated my birthday, as I pictured her alone somewhere. I later found out that she always went to a diner alone and had a piece of cake on that day, in celebration and mourning. Although her later children knew I existed, she chose to not share that day.

Now, she's known for 8 years exactly where I am and how to call me.: ) And I adore both of my moms with all my heart. Hugs, sweetie!

It's just… not possible.

(I got teary when I read that you had mail waiting for you. That is awesome.)